I wrote this book from the depths of my soul sharing deeply personal and sometimes very painful experiences. 

I believe:
 

• Life is a classroom.  People and circumstances are our teachers.  Learn the lesson well the first time and you won't have to repeat it.
• The first face you should look to for love is the face of God (or whatever you call your higher power).  The second face you should look to for love is your own.  You are complete just as you are - whether you are in a relationship or not.
• Until you address issues that are going on inside of you, you will continue to attract unsuitable mates.  You attract who you are on the inside.

It is my hope that my story will be an inspiration to all who think they are alone in their quest for a satisfying relationship.  You are not alone.  I've been there.  I've been married and divorced three times and experienced great love and great loss in love.  However, I believe that if you can just figure out your relationship patterns and break or change those patterns, you will be successful in love.

In addition to being an author, I am a relationship coach and a motivational speaker.   I  specialize in speaking to college students about relationships, dating and date rape.  I also speak to women's groups about relationship issues, pursuing one's passion, seeking one's purpose, self-publishing and entrepreneurship.

I am the mother of two wonderful adult children and the grandmother of one.  I live in Tampa, Florida with my family.

I'd like to leave you with this thought.  If you are a writer, don't die with your book or poem inside of you.  If you are a dancer, begin to dance like no one is watching but don't die with your dance inside of you.   If you are a painter, paint like you are Picasso but don't die with your picture inside of you.

Embrace all that you are and love yourself unconditionally.

Be blessed, and happy loving!

 

Carmin Wharton

The Risk of Love
by Kris Hydmore

There is a risk involved in everything
Every time you share a smile
Every time you shed a tear
You are opening yourself up to hurt.

Some people tread slowly through life,
Avoiding the closeness risk brings,
Side-stepping the things they can't understand
Turning away from those who care too much,
Those who care stay too long,
Those who hold too tightly.

There is never an easy way to love
You can not approach it cautiously
It will not wait for you to arm yourself.
It does not care if you turn away
It is everywhere, it is everything.

Love is the greatest of all risks.
It is not reliable, it is not cautious,
It is not sympathetic
It is unprejudiced and unmerciliess.
It strikes the strongest of mind,
And brings them to their knees in one blow.

Even in the best of times, love hurts.
It hurts to need, it hurts to belong,
It hurts to be the other part of someone else,
Without either of your consent.
But, from the moment it overtakes you,
It hurts worse to be all alone.

The risk of love never depletes;
It grows stronger and more dangerous with time.
But, it's in the total surrender of all defense,
That we, no matter weak or strong,
No matter willing or captive,
No matter what, we truly experience love.

Despite the many things love is not,
Outweighing it all are the things that love is.
Love is surrender without a loss.
It is a gift without the cost.
It consumes your every thought & desire,
Every breath you take.
It is the fire that fuels you
To do more than pass through life;
It urges you, instead, to live.

No matter the outcome, having felt love,
You will never be the same.
It may scar your heart & soul
And Leave you only memories of forever.
Or, it may cause every day of your life
To feel like there is no need for tomorrow.
But, love is worth it. It is worth the risk...

For in all of life,
Love is truly the only risk worth taking.

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