Free Articles
Featured Article
3 Steps to Your Perfect Mate
By Carmin Williams
If you don’t believe you will ever meet the mate that is perfect for you, you probably never will meet him.
There is a match – a perfect partner for you.
Here are 3 steps to start you on the right path toward meeting him:
1. Intend to meet him.
2. Clear cutter from your house, your mind and your life.
3. Know yourself.
If you'd like to use this article on your website, blog or anywhere else, please feel free to use it. However, the following information must be included at the end of the article:
About Carmin Wharton
Carmin Wharton is a relationship coach, professional speaker, entrepreneur, and the author of Lessons Learned: While Looking for Love in All the Wrong Faces; a book which focuses on the pitfalls many women encounter while seeking a loving romantic relationship. Carmin uses personal, gritty, and sometimes heart-wrenching accounts of her relationships with men to show that each relationship teaches us a valuable life lesson. She is also the Founder of e-BlackWomenNetwork.com; an online networking community for women of color.
By Carmin Williams
If you don’t believe you will ever meet the mate that is perfect for you, you probably never will meet him.
There is a match – a perfect partner for you.
Here are 3 steps to start you on the right path toward meeting him:
1. Intend to meet him.
- Examine your beliefs, thoughts and feelings about men in general. If you are harboring any negative beliefs about men such as they can’t be trusted, you don’t understand them, etc., eradicate those beliefs immediately. It will take time but each time a negative thought enters your mind about men, address it immediately and don’t allow it to take root.
- Determine if you have any hidden roadblocks to meeting him. For example, at this time in your life is there something more important than meeting him? Could it be developing a business, a career, returning to school or raising your children?
- Decide how you can restructure your life to place yourself in position to meet new people. Can you attend civic events, develop a passion for a cause, and attend social events?
2. Clear cutter from your house, your mind and your life.
- If your home is cluttered with things you no longer use or have never used, get rid of them. Either give them to those less fortunate or have a yard sale.
- If your mind is cluttered with unfinished projects or goals you have not achieved, reassess if you really want to achieve the goal or finish the project. If you don’t scrap it and release it from your mind; if you do want to continue with the project or goal, set a new date for completing it or completing a portion of it and stick to it.
- If your life is cluttered with false responsibility for others (able-bodied people who are grown and can take care of themselves) or causes that do not really interest you relieve yourself of the responsibility. If there are people in your life who habitually drain your energy and life force, remove them from your life. And, don’t you dare feel guilty about it; there are some people we have to love from a distance or not at all.
3. Know yourself.
- Decide what you really want; make sure that your thoughts, words and actions line up perfectly with what you really want.
- Be in touch with your likes, dislikes and your value system. If you begin to date someone and after spending time with them, decide early if their likes and dislikes and value system coincide with theirs.
- Decide what you really want in a mate and in all areas of your life. Don’t settle for less than you want in any area of your life. You are worth having whatever you want however you want it.
If you'd like to use this article on your website, blog or anywhere else, please feel free to use it. However, the following information must be included at the end of the article:
About Carmin Wharton
Carmin Wharton is a relationship coach, professional speaker, entrepreneur, and the author of Lessons Learned: While Looking for Love in All the Wrong Faces; a book which focuses on the pitfalls many women encounter while seeking a loving romantic relationship. Carmin uses personal, gritty, and sometimes heart-wrenching accounts of her relationships with men to show that each relationship teaches us a valuable life lesson. She is also the Founder of e-BlackWomenNetwork.com; an online networking community for women of color.
