Attract the Perfect Man Article

Attract the Perfect Man

Attract the Perfect Man
By Carmin Wharton

You can only attract:

Who you are; if you are desperate, you will attract a desperate man. He will either be desperate for a place to live, someone to take care of him, someone to manipulate.
What you expect; if you believe that men cannot be trusted, are all dogs or there are no good men, guess what? You will repeatedly attract men who cannot be trusted, are dogs or are absolutely no good. If by chance you catch the attention of a good, decent and honest man, you will not recognize him because you don’t believe that he exists.

How to attract a man who is right for you and will add value to your life:

Stop being desperate for a man. Men can sniff a desperate woman a mile away and they will run miles in the other direction. You may be desperate if you don’t give the man a chance to chase you and you instead chase him or demand a commitment from him early. Another sign of desperation if you have sex with or are willing to have sex with a man very early in the relationship.
Stop believing that you need a man to complete you. Do you think there is something that you cannot do, have or be because you don’t have a man? There is absolutely nothing that a man can do or give you that you cannot do or give yourself.
Stop believing that you cannot be fully alone. There are times in our lives when being alone is the best thing in the world to help us grow and become the type of woman a good man would love to be with. You believe you cannot be fully alone if you always feel the need to be doing something if you are not working. You may fool yourself by telling yourself, you are just a community activist or that you are serving the Lord by volunteering for every committee in your church. Carve out time alone with yourself to get to know yourself. Because once you meet the mate that is perfect for you, you won’t have as much time to yourself anymore. Relish this time in your life.
Do not become his mother. If you try to help a man by mothering him, you will drive away any and all passion and romance.

How to attract the man I desire:

Be open to attracting someone who will love you where you are now and also will love who you will become.

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About Carmin Wharton

Carmin Wharton is a relationship coach, professional speaker, entrepreneur, and the author of Lessons Learned: While Looking for Love in All the Wrong Faces; a book which focuses on the pitfalls many women encounter while seeking a loving romantic relationship. Carmin uses personal, gritty, and sometimes heart-wrenching accounts of her relationships with men to show that each relationship teaches us a valuable life lesson. She is also the Founder of e-BlackWomenNetwork.com; an online networking community for women of color.